Mindfire
Istar
Like I said, it's definitional. So the answer to your question of "how is it not evil" is that not everyone adopts your viewpoint and definition of it![]()
It wouldn't call it definitional so much as semantic. I think the same word is being attached to very different concepts. No one here thinks that sexual attraction is inherently bad (the definition you're using), but I think everyone would agree that sexual attraction that in practice demeans or abuses someone else (the definition I'm using) is definitely a bad thing. What you are calling lust, I would call libido. What I am calling lust, honestly I'm not sure what other word you can use for it.

Scribe
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